A close friend who listens and is not judgmental, yeah, no issues… the lads down the pub, not so much.’ James: ‘Tough question… I think it all depends on who. I mean, if I DID like it then I wouldn’t be ashamed to say it (given I wasn’t telling my parents or something).’ Would you ever admit to liking a finger in the bum? Rheese: ‘Something I can imagine becoming a not so regular occurrence but happening once in a blue moon.’ 7. Couldn’t see it becoming an every time thing for sure. Henry: ‘Like every now and then yeah go for it. ‘If you jump from sexual partner to sexual partner then it’s hard to build up a sexual relationship with that person and knowing what they really want and enjoy.’ Again I think it all comes down to your partner. James: ‘If you do it all the time it will lose its taboo and sometimes it’s nice to have one or two special treats now and then. Josh: ‘Probably not going to do it much more but she’s gone and bought a dildo just for it.
Tom: ‘I’d say a one-off, but if it was really enjoyable then why not regular!’ Is it something you’d see as a ‘one-off’ or something you’d like to become a regular occurrence during foreplay? ‘We’ve got a G spot there for a reason.’ (Picture: Ella Byworth for .uk) 6. Others have tried since with you know, no moisture, and that was sore! Definitely recommend. Mark: ‘Around 8… depends how much you’re “up for it”… it’s like rushing a poo I guess it’s way more enjoyable if you take your time.’ On a scale of 1-10, 10 being most painful, how painful was it, and did you enjoy it? On the opposite side of the scale I have had a sexual partner just stick it up with no warning. ‘It was very enjoyable and added to the pleasure of the moment. She then slowly worked it inside little by little. It was a small shock at the time but I kinda thought “Ok this is not so bad”. ‘She moved her hand under the balls and started to just play around the anus with her finger. The first time was while a lady was preforming oral sex while I was sat on a couch. Pretty certain they put their tongue there first and then it went to fingering with NO discussion at all.
Tom: ‘I have had someone put a finger up there but it was a bit of a shock as it wasn’t planned/discussed.’ Then she came up a little and continued with her finger.’ Henry: ‘The person I see was already performing oral sex (possibly the best head I’ve ever had) and just naturally worked from my shaft and balls further and further down until she had her tongue in my ass. Maybe if myself and a partner needed to spice up our sex lives.’
Mark: ‘I feel it’s something that i would be more inclined to do if suggested. Tom: ‘I don’t think my partner would ever suggest it so it would only happen if I asked.’ Rheese: ‘Talked about it with my girlfriend, I think I would be more comfortable having it done after a few drinks.’ I’d feel completely comfortable suggesting when I felt like it.’ Henry: ‘My sexual partners are really open people like myself so things have always gotten a little weirder than just “butt stuff”. I think communication is key on this matter.’ ‘I think most women would run a mile if you turned round early on and said “jam a thumb up my ass will you love?”. James: ‘Knowing what your partner wants is very important… I would not say it’s a first time kind of thing to ask someone either unless you chatted about it beforehand. Do you feel it’s something you’re more inclined to ask for or is it something you’d wait for your sexual partner to request? Henry: ‘Yes, definitely! Experimented a bit but not too much.’ 3. James: ‘I wouldn’t say it’s a fantasy as it’s something I have already experienced. Tom: ‘I have definitely fantasised about it, everyone’s a little bit curious!’ Mark: ‘Not really… I’ve seen it in porn and carried on masturbating. Have you ever fantasised about ‘butt stuff’ (having it touched, pleasured etc)? ‘Jam a thumb up my ass, will you love?’ (Picture: Ella Byworth for .uk) 2.